I’ve just added a new page I promised one reader I’d write. It talks about how I accidentally discovered letting the boys use my spare computer has turned into a real Boy Magnet.

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I have a spare computer set up on the coffee table that the boys love to use for checking Email, chatting with farang and Thai friends, and general surfing entertainment. That combined with a comfortable sofa and a color TV has made my living room a fabulous boy magnet. It’s not about getting free sex, mind you. I just like having the boys around to keep me company, and they are more than happy to help take care of things around the house or run little errands.

Anyway, the point of all this is it also affords me the rare opportunity to observe boys interacting with farang. I’m careful not to get involved with what they should say to the farang, but will help them with translation, when asked. This gives me the chance to view what is being discussed, and I’m frequently astonished by the behavior of some.

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Today a boy asked me for some help, because a farang he had been chatting with asked him to call a Bangkok hotel and get their Email address, and the boy didn’t exactly understand the request. It was obvious the man from Holland was too cheap to pick up the phone and call for reservations, so he wanted the boy to spend his cell phone minutes to get an Email address. The boy was more than happy to do this for him, but first decided to look for a web site. He found a web site for the hotel, and on it was their Email address, so he sent that to the man.

The man quickly replied, telling the boy that Email address did not work. So the boy called the hotel and asked. The lady he spoke with gave him an Email address, and the boy sent it to the man, not realizing it was the same one on the web site. The man was not very nice when he informed the boy this was still a bad Email address. The boy politely responded by saying, “Sorry…is Email hotel lady give me.” The response from the farang was, “Fuck the hotel lady and fuck you.”

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At this point the boy is feeling a little hurt and has no idea how to respond. I, on the other hand, am furious, and break my rule about getting involved with the discussion. I told the boy to tell Mr. Holland when he comes to Bangkok he can fuck the hotel lady but not him. Undaunted, the man responds with new instructions. He orders the boy to call the hotel and give them his Email address. I’m about to tell the boy how to respond when the boy politely informs this asshole he’s not his boy. And to my astonishment, the man replied saying, “For the last time, call the hotel and give them my Email address.” At this point I advised the boy to just stop talking to the man.

Now this is one of the really good boys. He would give you the shirt off his back, if he thought it would help, and he’s a money boy! Boys like this are getting harder and harder to find, and I believe it’s because they’ve become jaded from repeated experiences with pricks like this guy from Holland.

I once observed a farang who liked to go into a Go Go bar in Silom Soi 6 and toss candy to the boys. All the boys would line up, like trained seals, to catch the baby pacifier shaped candy this guy would throw to them. Apparently this was a regular thing, as all the boys knew him and quickly got into position to receive their treats.

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I’m sure this guy believes the boys enjoy his candy pitching visits, as they all appeared to be having a great time…smiling, laughing and joking the entire time. In fact, being treated like zoo animals is totally degrading for them. And despite their outward behavior, the boys actually thought he was a big piece of farang shit.

At this point, you might be questioning why the boys appeared to be having such a good time. The answer is simple…it’s their job to entertain the customer, no matter how much of an arrogant thoughtless ass he is.

As I mentioned before, earning the boys’ respect has everything to do with how well you will be treated. If you are looking to earn that respect, treating a Thai like he’s an animal is not the best approach. It is very easy to just think of these boys as sex objects, and forget they have feelings. These boys may be for hire, but I guarantee you they don’t have to perform at their best…and won’t if they don’t like you!

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Be careful with over using Mr, or the Thai equivalent Khon (coon). It’s good to do in formal introductions, or with people in a more business oriented relationship or encounter, but may have a negative affect if used in more casual situations. It is difficult to explain, and arguably a subjective call, but always keep in mind it elevates the status of the person you are talking to, or about. Used inappropriately, and you risk loosing the boy’s respect by giving him too much. What we think of as a simple complement, may not always be taken the same in Thai culture. Farang have a tendency to learn something and over use it, ignorant of its true meaning in different situations, and I’m as guilty as the rest.

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If you arrange a time with boy to come see you for sex, and he is more than 15 minutes late, send him away. Make sure you let him know up front if he is late it will not be good for you. Then if he is late tell him it is not good for you. No matter what he says, stick to your guns. He is thinking you are so horny it doesn’t matter if he is late. Thus, he is taking control, and you can not allow this. The boy will not respect you if you let him control the situation. Do this and I guarantee next time the boy will be on the mark, if not early, and with a smile on his face. And there’s a very good chance the sex will be better.

A farang friend, of 12 years in Thailand, once told me something I never forgot. He said most farang treat their boys like puppies. While a rent boy will appear to be pleased when treated this way, in reality he does not like it, and it greatly diminishes his respect for you. In fact, it diminishes the respect all the other boys have for you, and they are all observing and comparing notes…believe me.

Kissing, hugging, touching, grabbing, or fondling a rent boy in public, including inside a bar, is embarrassing for the boy. The ideal situation is to have a boy that fancies you. You will have a much better experience if he does. Doing things to diminish his respect for you is not the way to achieve this goal.

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You may think that buying the boy gifts, and letting him order expensive drinks and meals will score points, but nothing could be further from the truth. The only thing you will get in return is to be labeled by him, and all the other boys, as easy. The boys do not respect someone that is easy. You may question why the boys ask for it if they don’t like it. The answer is you are being tested!

JAI-DEE (good heart) means to be to be kind and generous. I use to think this was a complement, and in some situations it is. If a boy says, in front of you, to another boy you are jai dee, it is most likely a tongue and cheek insult…he’s telling his friend you are easy - a push over. Your response, of course, will be to thank the boy for this nice complement, and the joke will be on you!

My focus here has been on the rent boys, because they will go with you for the money, even though they do not respect you. They may be for sale, but the boys are still human and have feelings. How well they take care of you will often be driven by your conduct. With non money boys you probably won’t get to first base, and you most certainly won’t get a second date.

All of this is completely contradictory to our western way of thinking, and very difficult for us to embrace. The better you get at it, the more pleasing your experiences will be with the boys. For you older/fatter guys, mastering the art of garnering respect will most certainly result in a lot more free sex.