Thai boys like to shower. I don’t know how many times a day they do, but it’s a safe bet they are going to want a shower before you hop in the sack. You will be expected to shower, as well. As I mentioned before, most will want you to shower first.

If the boy spends the night with you, he will most likely, but not always, want to shower before leaving. If he is carrying a small bag with him, it probably has the makings of an over night bag in it, and possibly a clean shirt. A lot of Thai boys wear makeup; so don’t be surprised when they spend a little extra time in the bathroom powdering the face.

Some of the younger guys wear some rather elaborate hairstyles involving the use of a lot of hair spray and a blow dryer. Do not expect them to get their hair wet while showering. As a matter of fact, do not expect them to let you touch their hair while having sex. If this is an issue for you, don’t bring one home that has his hair all done up.

If you plan to have a steady stream of guys over, be prepared to go through a lot of deodorant and mouthwash. The boys will help themselves to those items, so they get used up rather quickly. Also be aware some guys will help themselves to your hairbrush. I’m not sure, but would not be surprised, if your toothbrush is considered fair game. If you are in a hotel, towels are not an issue, but if you have your own place, make sure to stock an ample supply. Laundry is only done once or twice a week. The same goes for cum towels.

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UPDATE

Here are a couple of things I have recently learned that clear up some questions I’ve had about showering.

Why the boys want you to shower before sex…

It doesn’t matter if you showered a few hours before going home with a boy for sex. He will still want you to shower again. According to a farang friend of mine, our body odor is distinctly different from Thai. While the boys absolutely love having sex with us, they really don’t care for the way we smell. For many Thai boys it can actually be a turn off.

My farang friend was a bit apprehensive to explain this, because he felt it sounded too racially prejudice, but the fact is there are physiological differences between races, so it is plausible our body odor may be different. Armed with this information, I decided to poke around the Internet and see what I could find on the subject. As it turns out Asians produce little or no body odor, because they do not have as many odor producing glands as we westerners. I was also able to confirm that different races smell different. So what I’ve determined is our body odor is both different and much more intense. Frankly, I can’t recall ever smelling body odor on a Thai, under any circumstance, and now I know why.

My friend also told me he had read some place that Asians have an acute sense of smell, making strong unpleasant odors even more repugnant, but I’ve not been able to find any reference to this on the Internet.

A quote from American Renaissance News: Race And Physical Differences

For whatever reasons, the races do not smell the same. Blacks and whites have strong, but differing smells, and many Asians have scarcely any smell. Koreans often have no odor-producing glands in their arm-pits at all and Japanese have very few. Nineteenth-century Japanese found Europeans so foul-smelling that even today, a common Japanese expression for anything Western means “stinking of butter.”

A quote from Science Digest: Racial Odyssey

As any bloodhound knows, every person has his or her own distinctive scent. People vary in the mixture of odoriferous compounds exuded through the skin - most of it coming from specialized glands called apocrine glands. Among whites, these are concentrated in the armpits and near the genitals and anus. Among blacks, they may also be found on the chest and abdomen. Orientals have hardly any apocrine glands at all. In the words of the Oxford biologist John R. Baker, “The Europids and Negrids are smelly, the Mongoloids scarcely or not at all.” Smelliest of all are northern European, or so-called Nordic, whites. Body odor is rare in Japan. It was once thought to indicate a European in the ancestry and to be a disease requiring hospitalization.

And this quote from a page on Anosmia and Olfactory Facts

How we smell as individuals is determined by the number of sweat glands, the amount of body hair, diet, health, occupation, environment, medication, emotional health, mood, and genes. Also, blacks, whites, and Asians all have different immune-system proteins and this is one theory for why people of different races smell different. East Asians used to say that whites stank of butter (the butter smell arises from diacetyl-a very small molecule with two ketone groups; westerners tend to consume more butter and other dairy products than Asians). Meat-eaters often smell unpleasant to vegetarians. Hairy Westerners often smell unpleasant to Asians, who don’t have as many apocrine glands at the base of hair follicles as Westerners. Children smell different from adults, smokers smell different from nonsmokers.

With this understanding, the obvious question is why do the boys also want to shower. Well, if for no other reason, it’s to wash off all the skin lotions and baby powder they cover themselves with. That, and bottoms like to give themselves an enema before sex.

My conclusion from all of this is your chances for really good sex go way down when you elect to forego the shower.

Why the boys want you to shower first…

I’ve always wondered why the boys insist I shower first. I wasn’t sure if it was a courteous gesture of respect, or the boy had an ulterior motive to rifle through my things (wallet) while I’m in the bathroom, and he can hear when the water shuts off. I assumed it might be a little of each, depending on the boy. Now I know the real reason why.

According to a farang friend of mine, this is a cultural carryover from the traditional method Thais use to bathe. Traditional Thai bathing, still widely practiced today, involves standing in a large plastic tub to catch the water being scooped from an even larger tub and pored over the body. The tub catching the “dirty” water is not emptied between baths. Instead, everyone in the home takes their turn before the tub is carried out and dumped by two people. Thus, the first person to bathe is the only one that does not have to stand in dirty water produced by the others that have already bathed. To offer someone the first bath is a courteous and/or respectful gesture, even if bathing is to be done in a modern shower with floor drain. Therefore, it should be no surprise when the boy offers you first bath. He’s just being polite. Of course, he might also have plans to go through your wallet, so don’t let your guard down.

UPDATE

Why do a lot of boys prefer showering in cool or lukewarm water?

A reader made the observation Thais don’t care for steaming hot showers, and there’s a very good reason why.

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Most of the boys come from homes that do not have a hot water heater in the shower.  In fact, many homes in Thailand don’t even have showers.  A common method of bathing is to bail water from a large tub and pour it over the body.  One can assume the tub of water is topped off after bathing, so it’s at room temperature by the next round of baths.

In apartment buildings, and many homes, water is usually supplied from one or more holding tanks located on the roof.  The afternoon sun warms the water in these tanks, making it more comfortable during the winter months, but possibly very hot in summer time.  Even though the boys may have a shower nozzle in the bathroom, it’s not uncommon to see that same big tub of water, which is also used to rinse out the squat toilet.  Again, that big tub of water sets all day and turns to room temperature.

I watched a woman bathe here infant child from a garden hose in Soi Twilight one time.  The child didn’t flinch one bit when she turned the hose on him.

Most of the bar boys come from rural Thailand where, to a large extent, bathing is at its most primitive, so it’s no surprise they prefer a cooler temperature when bathing.  I do know one boy that prefers steaming hot showers, but he’s an exception.  While most may be used to cold water bathing, they do enjoy every opportunity to shower with a water heater.  Even so, the majority just want the water warmed slightly.   One boy told me he prefers his showers warm, but not hot, as the higher temperatures tend to dry his smooth skin and make it rough.  I suspect he’s not alone in this thinking, as Thais go out of their way to protect and maintain their silky smooth skin.

We should also remind ourselves the temperatures in Thailand are quite hot and humid most of the year.  So it should be no surprise the boys prefer a cool refreshing shower a couple of times a day.  Over time, even I have developed a preference for the cooler showers, except during the winter months.