Like most things I talk about there are exceptions, but the average life of a Thai boy/farang relationship is roughly 6 to 8 months. A few will last as long as 3 years. Those that survive longer represent a percentage too small to constitute a statistic.

There are a number of reasons for this, but the biggest is the westerner’s ignorance of Thai culture. I say this with absolute confidence…no farang should enter into a long-term relationship before living full time in Thailand for a bare minimum of 6 months. Ideally the length of stay should be 2 to 5 years, depending on how quickly one grasps the unique complexities of this culture.

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I would venture to say most relationships, that truly go the distance, are with farang that have lived in Thailand for an extended period. On the flip side, there are westerners that live in Thailand for 20 years and never really understand enough to take on a successful relationship with a Thai.

I’m not suggesting you avoid entering into a relationship, but do so without blinders on. Go into the relationship with the understanding it will most likely fail…within months. Don’t squander your entire life savings on the first boy you meet and fall in love with. It happens…A LOT! But of course…your situation is different…right? Maybe so, but not very likely I’m afraid.

A very important rule to learn, as it relates to spending your money on a boy and his family - set the bar very low, because it will only go up and you can NEVER EVER lower it.

Some will not like what I am about to say, and I will reiterate their ARE exceptions, but they are rare. When a boy, particularly one from Isan, takes his new found farang to see the family it is a strategic move on his, and his family’s, part to seal the deal. They are going to pull out all the stops, and make you feel like a king. And you are going to witness, not to mention experience, the absolute poverty your new found love’s family lives in. It is a well orchestrated play that has been running longer than any show on Broadway, and it WORKS!

I’ve been meaning to write this for a long time, but a new comment posted inspired me stop putting it off. It’s a bitter pill some may choose not to swallow. Believe me when I say…that’s completely understandable. Your situation is different…right?

Roger,

If you don’t like this answer, go with my original comment - both are appropriate. Every situation is different, so use your best judgment and enjoy.